On Offering Value

Why does it happen that some men really click with women while others are natural female repellents? Some guys have more than their share of girls while others simply cannot get a girl to save their lives,even when they are good-hearted gentlemen and fine human beings? Not fair,right? Is it because of something that they lack,something that they fail to do? Or is it perhaps because they do things which they should not be doing?

Female mind is said to be one of the most complex mysteries that lie before men.'What do women want?' is a question that even Freud said he couldn't solve.Beating your mind in order to grasp the intricacies of female psyche is not only debilitating,but also in a way,futile.In fact,the harder you try to answer this question,the more it befuddles you.So,instead of trying to understand and control the way women think,it is much more simpler and productive to understand what women RESPOND to,and control your OWN behaviour accordingly(Here is where evolution comes into play.Men and women are bound to respond to high-value behaviour).Hence,the more answerable and question of pertinence would be 'What do women respond to?'.This gets the question within the realm of human answering.

Essentially,there are numerous traits in men to which women respond.If a woman responds positively to a certain trait,it creates attraction.If a woman responds negatively to a certain trait,it destroys attraction.Although the traits which create attraction differ from woman to woman(what is attractive to one woman may not necessarily be attractive to another woman),there are few traits which are universally attractive to all women.One such trait in men which creates MASSIVE attraction within women is Offering Value.It's one of the biggest differences I've noticed between guys who consistently get girls and guys who don't.It doesn't matter how smooth you are or whether you have 'game' or not,at the end of the day,it boils down to this one thing.Most of the guys approach girls with a predetermined agenda in their minds-"I want this girl to talk to me,I want the girl to give me her phone number,I want her to come on a date with me,etc".They approach girls through a frame of neediness(the 'I want' frame),with a half-filled cup,trying to fill the void by getting approval from the girl so that they feel validated.However,what they don't realise is that we humans have auto-pilot responses towards certain types of behaviour.Whenever someone approaches us with a frame of neediness,we are subconsciously compelled to brush off that person.Classic example of this is when a beggar asks us for alms,we don't really start pondering over his economic situation and how it would affect his future well-being if we don't give him alms.We just distance ourselves from him.The reason we do this is because we know that the beggar has a predetermined agenda in his mind-to get money from us,which is subconsciously seen by us as sucking value.We know that he has no value to offer.In the same manner,guys who talk to girls with an agenda in their mind or in order to feel good about themselves(sucking value) are the ones who never succeed.On the other hand,guys who talk to girls in order to make the girls feel better about themselves(offering value) are the ones who always succeed.Now does this mean if you're extra nice to girls and pay them cheesy generic compliments,you'd make them feel good about themselves?The answer to this question is not just no,but HELL NO! There is a thin line between being unnecessarily nice and offering value.Being unnecessarily nice is reactive behaviour towards girls in order to win their approval and please them.Seeking approval and reactive behaviour can be smelled light-years away by girls and puts them off than most of the other things,if not all.Giving over the top generic compliments is not only unauthentic,it is also insincere and goddamn lame.Offering value,on other hand,is being cool and interesting person yourself so that you just suck girls in your world and reality,giving them the most awesome time of their lives.They want to be part of your reality because they're drawn into it by their own will,instead of you trying to do so with cheesy behaviour and fake compliments.You approach girls with a fully filled cup,thus leaving space only to offer and not seek validation.Here you're not being reactive,you're being proactive.Your sense of reality is strongly anchored within yourself and is so amazingly solid and lucrative that everyone is sucked into it and is having fun-because YOU are having fun.And when girls start having fun around you,they give you the credit for making them feel better about themselves.This creates attraction.

This is what offering value is about.Remember,ALWAYS leave girls better than you found them!

Magical Word of Wisdom™

Magical Word of Wisdom™ has been the most heavily guarded secret of all time.Over Millennia,conspiracies have been plotted,gruesome battles have been fought and epic ballads have been sung in its praise.Through channels of history it has traveled, enduring everything that came in its way until it reached the place where it was destined to be - my blog.Use it wisely and it will bestow upon you power beyond your wildest dreams.Pronounce it wrong and you'll be forever transformed into a centipede with arthritis.The choice,as they say,is yours.

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Goodbye.See you on the other side.

(Ignore this post.This post was for people who are discerning enough to understand it and those who are,have already)

On Authenticity

Fight Club has to be one of the most awesome novels I've ever read.Highly profound and eerily prophetic.Though it might be an interesting read even at its face value,it carries many epiphanical life lessons cleverly hidden under the concept of fight club which makes it such a hit with the readers.It tells us how consumerism is taking charge of our life in today's world.How things we own end up owning us.How we were born to be hunters but ended up in a sociey of consumers.Mindblowing.Although initially I thought that this book has a very cynical outlook towards life,I later realised what the author was trying to put across made sense.We really live in a delusional world.We think we are our jobs,the cars we drive,the frickin' sofas we rest our butts on.It's almost as if we are defined as a person by perfect set of clothes or a pair of new shoes,depending on these things to put us in to state of happiness.Is this really who we are?Is this what we really need?In this world where materialism is controlling our lives,we have lost touch with our true self.Which brings me to the concept of authenticity and what it means to be like being "genuinely authentic".


Tyler Durden's quote,"Sticking feathers up your butt does not make you a chicken" is one of my favourite quotes ever.Couldn't agree more with it.Buying a new car or a 42 inch plasma TV is not going to change our core value as a person.We are just buying into somebody else's reality,supplicating to get their approval so that we could fit in with everyone.To me,Tyler Durden is epitome of authenticity.But,who is Tyler Durden really and why am I giving you his example here?Who he is can be explained in a single word,which carries almost the same meaning as having absolute authenticity:


FREEDOM.


He's freedom from everything that we hate.He's freedom from everything we want to be but cannot.He's freedom from society which constantly tells us what to wear,what to eat,what to learn,how to act,how to live.He's freedom from expectations that the world throws upon us to behave in a certain way inorder to conform with the masses.We have been brainwashed by the society we live in.Most of us conform out of fear,being afraid of how society will judge us.But while trying to micromanage this,we just shoot ourselves in the foot.We lose our true self.And we end up losing our authenticity.We judge people how the world dictates to us based on their education,family,relationships,lifestyle,etc.We treat homosexuals,transsexuals,hippies and gothic children as outcasts because they have chosen to be who they are inside.We feel they are sick,need to be cured and need to conform.We pursue rhetorical education without giving a thought to it because we are expected by the society to do so.Anything other than that would be 'shameful' or 'humiliating'.We pack into gyms not to stay fit but to get eight pack abs or whatever because Tommy Hilfiger or Calvin Klein said so.We get a pile of new clothes every two months because we feel looking like a rockstar in front of everyone all the time is an absolute requirement.As you sit down and read,ask yourself this.Am I really being authentic?Am I being who I really am inside?Or am I just walking in a trace like everbody,conforming to the society so that I can please everyone?


If the answer to the last question is affirmative,it's time to wake up from the slumber.Find out who you are inside.Follow your passions and be who you need to be inside rather than what society feels is 'normal'.You don't have to worry about the latest gadget you could get your hands on or listening to music you are told to.Do what you feel and live in your freedom.Once you start being who you really are,you'll find yourself happy,loving what you're doing and loving yourself.This is the purest form of authentcity,what I mean by being "genuinely authentic" as a person.


Will this be hard?Will you be judged?Will people hate you?Yes.They will hate you for having the courage to be who you want to be.They will be jealous of you because you're free in all the ways they are not,while they are still trapped in their conforming world.Your life will change,career might change and people in your life might change but this is the time to think for yourself,to be happy.If there are people who love you,genuinely love you,they will always be there with you.

My first post (..and hopefully not the last!)

I always wanted to do this.Since eternity,if that would help you understand.Not compulsorily through one chosen medium,but yeah,in a way or the other,I always wanted a handy outlet for my thoughts.Writing on paper a.k.a going old school could've been my first choice,but it has its own limitations and is nothing more than pain in the neck,literally and figuratively.Besides,it is just what it's name suggests-old school.And also because I don't like wasting paper(really!).Same is the case with verbal conveyance of thoughts.I mean c'mon,you can't be mouth-feeding your shit 24*7 to everyone.Fortunately,now that we have phenomenal things these days like electricity,Bill Gates and the internet(ever heard of 'em?),I took from it that blogging should be least painful of the lot.So yes,after convincing myself about the the comfortableness of blogging and giving myself take-some-pains-to-register-for-a-blog-you-lazy-ass sermons everyday,I finally jumped the bandwagon.I hereby assure you that no trees were and are going to be cut in typing of my posts,though a large number of electrons would be terribly inconvenienced.Try to take it with a pinch of salt(if you really give a damn,that is).Oh,one more thing.After reading the posts,please have courtesy to leave comments(sigh!).Good or bad,I don't care,as long as you do.PERSON WHO READS MY POSTS AND DOES NOT LEAVE COMMENTS WILL GET PUNCHED IN HIS GONADS BY 14 PEOPLE IN NEXT 24 HOURS!(don't ask me what if you're a girl,insert a random mean-ass,chain letter-ish jinx over here)Lastly,I would like to thank anyone who is patient enough to go through my posts.You got helluva shit-enduring capacity,I tell you!Now let's get down to business,baby!Showtime!